We are all Relate fully trained and experienced counsellors, who specialise in helping people address issues in their relationships. We understand that making the decision to get counselling can be difficult, and we have helped people through this hundreds of times.
Based in Hampshire Surrey and Wiltshire we bring experience, professionalism and commitment to help you work through relationship issues in a safe, non-judgemental environment.
Currently all our services are being offered online only
Once lockdown restrictions allow, face-to-face counselling will be available as follows…
• Relationship Counselling for Couples and Individuals: Aldershot, Andover, Basingstoke, Bordon, Farnham, Liss and Overton
• Counselling for Young People: Aldershot, Farnham
• Family Counselling: Aldershot, Basingstoke, Bordon, Farnham, Liss
• Psychosexual Therapy (Sex Therapy): Aldershot, Andover, Farnham, Basingstoke, Devizes, Salisbury, Amesbury
To book an appointment please contact your counsellor of choice directly. Each counsellor has a "Who we are" page with contact details.
Other sources of support
Many good books on relationships are available these days. We particularly recommend those published by RELATE.
If you are experiencing changes in mood, it may be worth talking to your GP to rule out medical causes.
And if you are in danger from violence, abuse, or suicidal urges, please get help quickly from an appropriate agency such as Samaritans or the National Domestic Abuse Helpline, or call 999.
A Therapist's View
Kids and easing COVID lockdown 2.0
The government has announced a timetable for the easing of lockdown restrictions. Sure enough there is evidence, anecdotal at this early stage, to indicate that children have the same worries and anxieties about returning into society, and for most kids that includes school.
I have heard stories of anxiety around COVID testing at school, not being able to catch up and being christened ‘thick’ for evermore, and even that there is no point because there will be lockdown 3.0 anyway. All the issues that existed before, still exist now.
The social pressures that were there before lockdown 1.0 and 2.0 are still there now. In fact, you might argue that a large part of these issues stems from growing up, puberty and developing an identity they are comfortable with - all primarily non COVID related . Children will be out of the secure and familiar yet boring environment of home, and having to navigate physical friendship / social politics, peer pressure, bullying, standing out, sporting / academic achievement, appearance, personal hygiene, stages of puberty etc, all of which are as confusing as they were before.
The overriding sense is that we are starting to 'see the light at the end of the tunnel' and that easing the lockdown is ‘a good thing’ - this narrative has become quite dominant. Interestingly, in some cases this has led to an increase in child anxiety and a decrease in the feeling that children have that they can share their thoughts with adults. Some children feel that they won’t be listened to if they speak, some children feel there must be something ‘wrong’ with them if they are anxious about the post lockdown world.
Food for thought: if they do ask a question or share a thought – even if it is nonsense, try not to show impatience or dismissive body language. Don’t try and joke or use sarcasm (unless you are very sure of yourself!). Be kind, be patient, try not to ask too many questions (this usually results in monosyllabic responses), reassure them, try to have a conversation when doing something else (chopping veg, setting the table, driving etc) – although not watching a screen! The lack of a direct eye contact, busying themselves with something else can be less intrusive or confrontational for them. Allow yourself to be the butt of a joke, the subject of some gentle collective family ribbing. If they ask, say you’re just checking in on them and that you love them. They will probably think you’re a weirdo, and might say as much. Let them have the last word. At least they feel they can say something.